Best Ways to Use Vibrator During Sex for Mutual Satisfaction

It’s no secret that many partners are reluctant to use vibrators during sex or do not approve of their partner’s independent use. Reason? Simply, they are afraid that the vibrator will replace or surpass them (which is not an unfounded fear). And that’s even more common when it comes to men because it’s a matter of their ego.

Another thing that is an obstacle to owning a vibrator is the process of buying it. Most people don’t fancy visiting adult shops. Luckily, online stores (such as Emma’s Sex Store) are a great solution — you find a great fit, click a couple of times and patiently wait for your new joy.

Therefore, it is a great idea to use a vibrator with a partner, in a way that both parties get pleasure from it. This avoids a moment of jealousy (yes, jealousy of a vibrator exists).

We asked people who improved sexual life by introducing a vibrator into the game how they came up with the idea, whether it was difficult for both parties to agree, and most importantly—what is the best way to use a vibrator during sex, for mutual satisfaction.

Let’s see what they had to say.

”In fact, it was his idea!”—Laura, 33

I know I’m far from being the alone case, but I think I’ve come from just penetrating maybe a total of 3 times in my life! My boyfriend has to work pretty hard to give me an orgasm, and he really tries. But, you know, it can be hard. In fact, it was his idea to buy a vibrator—it was easier for him, and my pleasure was guaranteed. And it’s fun to try something new in bed.

We chose a vibrator the size of his penis, with a couple of vibration modes. And I can tell you, we did the right thing—now every sex brings me an orgasm. I’m not saying he doesn’t do anything down there anymore, but this really makes things easier. The only thing we agreed on was for me not to use it alone. If you ask me, that’s fair. I wouldn’t want him to use pocket pussy either.
Our favorite way to use it is to hold the vibrator on my clit while he penetrates me, and after he comes, he usually continues to have fun and provoke me by stimulating my nipples or anus.

”We had to find a way for me to cum during sex.” —Stephanie, 26

I rarely cum during sex, so we decided to get a vibrator, since that way the chances for orgasm increase extremely. He didn’t complain, because we really needed something. He was still skeptical when we first bought it, but now it turns him on to use a vibrator on and in me. For now, our best practice is when he inserts it in me and points it in the direction of the belly button. We also love when I am on him, and he stimulates my clitoris with a vibrator. We now want to buy one specifically for anal play, we found a couple of great anal vibrators online.

Best Ways to Use Vibrator During Sex for Mutual Satisfaction

”He’s in love with that perineum stimulation!” —Sarah, 31

It must have taken me about 2-3 months to persuade him to get one. He was convinced that his penis would be useless after I try the vibrator, so he hesitated to buy it. As soon as we bought it we decided to give it a try — and instead of using it on me right away, I suggested we try it on him. Just to be clear, my hubby does not like anything near his anus, but he never complains about me stimulating the part between the anus and the scrotum, and it wasn’t any different this time.

I gifted him with oral sex and perineum vibrating stimulation — and it literally blew him away! Now he is in love with that perineum stimulation, but when I do it with a vibrator. Of course, we use it on me too — I adore it when he inserts our new toy into my vagina and turns on the strongest vibration mode, while he penetrates my back hole. Can’t get enough of it!

”Foreplay on another level!” — Chuck, 41

What is sex without good foreplay? We tried many things, but we weren’t overly enthusiastic about sex toys. Then a huge desire for a vibrator was born in me (after one awesome porn I watched). I’m pretty gifted, so I wasn’t afraid that the vibrator could be my competition or enemy. My girlfriend of course agreed. We took a medium-sized vibrator and immediately tried it out in foreplay. I turned on the weakest vibration mode and touched her crotch over her panties, purely to tease her a little. I can’t describe that excitement as she stimulated my glans with vibrations over my pants! I think I could cum just like that, without sex or anything. Of course, it’s hard to stop there – we use it during whole sex: for oral, vaginal, anal penetration, as well as to stimulate the nipples – mine and hers. I also like when she stimulates my anus, but without penetration.

Best Ways to Use Vibrator During Sex for Mutual Satisfaction

”We have two, and we need more!” — Benjamin, 27

I started using the vibrator long before I came in contact with a real penis. My partner is also a big fan of these sexual aids. Although we both have something to be content with (even praise, lol), we like to turn that thing on from time to time. We usually use it so that we both have stimulation at the same time. The one who penetrates has a vibrator inserted into the anus. That suits us best. Now we have an eye on remote control vibrators so that we can control and change the intensity as we want without any hassle.

”I had to beg him to accept using my egg vibrator.” — Tanya, 23

We use an egg vibrator for double penetration (the vibrator provides both). While I am being stimulated by the vibrator, I am performing oral on my fiancé. And we really love that combo.

He wasn’t thrilled when I showed him what I had bought, but after lots of begging, he agreed. I explained to him that the vibrator would never be able to replace him and what he has between his legs — he fell for it. But to be honest, sex doesn’t have the same charm to me anymore when we don’t use my egg vibrator. But hey, it is what it is. We are inseparable now. I use it even without my beloved one, but shhh!

Best Ways to Use Vibrator During Sex for Mutual Satisfaction

”Spooning, but advanced.” — Nick, 40

She could hardly wait to buy a vibrator when I first mentioned it to her! Of course, I said I didn’t want her to use it on her own — I didn’t want to think about whether that little thing would replace me at some point. It’s totally okay for me to use it together.

I enjoy when she cums a couple of times during one sex sesh because of this thing (and mine of course). I love when we’re in a spooning position and as I penetrate my “little spoon” from behind, I hold the vibrator on her clit making her moan like crazy. How can I not love something that makes my girlfriend so happy? After all, it makes me abnormally hard when I see how much she twists and moans!

”We made a vibrator out of his penis — that was the only way.” — Amie, 20

My boyfriend didn’t want to hear about the vibrator, no matter how much I begged him — I eventually gave up. But my baby definitely loves me, because one day he handed me the box and inside was a cock ring. I couldn’t help but notice how smart he is! He knew how much I wanted a vibrator, but he was also aware of how much he didn’t want to use it, thinking such a thing would replace him and destroy our sex life. He came up with cock rings. That way we were both satisfied.

It’s a really great thing, especially when we use it in a doggy pose. It hits different when he has a ring on it.

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